My "Friend" Made A Turn for the Worse >:(

Toph's picture

Well, I have...ok...had a friend. We were really close for a long time (about 3-4 years). I was always afraid she'd end up a bad kid. She liked to get into the arguments at school with the little cliques and she even got into a "gang" fight (stupid immature kids claimed they were a gang). I was always warning her to be careful and not be stupid. I told her she could ruin her life with one stupid mistake.

One day (about a few months ago) we were talking and she was saying how she was talking about sex with a guy. I told her it was stupid since she knew the guy had about 3 girlfriends and got one pregnant. I told her not to be stupid and to at least not talk to him about such things if she was gonna hang out with him. She got mad at me for even suggesting it. I told her if she wants to be stupid and ruin her life, it was fine by me. I just didn't want to hear about it. So I stopped talking to her.

So yesterday she spoke to one of my friends. She asked about me and said a few things. Then she went on to say how she went to a party, got drunk, and slept with a guy she didn't even know.

STUPID FUCKING WHORE.

It gets me so mad that she's so reckless. I can't believe her. People like that get me so mad. When they don't realize how stupid their actions are and flaunt it around like its some triumph.

I don't know why I'm letting this bother me. Maybe its because she's only 15 and doesn't really have a true view of life? That she's gonna fuck up her life before she has a chance to live it. I'm not her friend anymore. We don't talk. But the memory of who she was. That fun, innocent girl that was my friend. Now, it's just some stupid teenager that doesn't give a fuck if she gets pregnant and has to take care of a child AND her sisters (since her mom is so irresponsible and her dad left them 2 years ago).

I HATE HER.

I didn't fall asleep until 6 a.m. because I was so frustrated about her stupid actions.

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Orah's picture

My best friend is the same way.

I can't describe the way she is any way other than slutty. She means so much to me but she just turned 16 and she already had a pregnancy scare. She hooks up with all these different guys she doesn't even have feelings for and she doesn't get that no matter what I worry about her.

What can you do? It's really, really hard. I had a huge fight with her over it. I talked to her, yelled at her. I tried to drill it into her brain that what she was doing wasn't safe. I gave her places she could go for help. I tried being compassionate. At least she uses condoms during sex now...

Hang in there, try to be strong. I hope everything works out in the end.

<3

Toph's picture

The thing is I'm not her

The thing is I'm not her friend. I haven't been for nearly half a year now. I've fought and tried with her for years, but I'm sick of it now. I don't have the willpower to deal with her cuz soon I'll be a college freshman. I just can't figure out why it bothers me that she did that. I try to completely forget her, but I can't.

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nydolls1973's picture

You should let her do what

You should let her do what she wants...I have all kinds of friends, drug users, literati, annoying types, anime freaks, and if I worried about every one of them I wouldn't have time for anything else!
You are going to meet a lot of people like her. Just let her go through her phases without worrying about it and you will find yourself much less stressed out.
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I don't fear making light of the loss of ye
I still want to be asleep with ye

joemondragon's picture

The fact that you're so

The fact that you're so angry about this shows that you DO care. A lot. If there's nothing you can do, there is probably something someone else can do. Talk to an adult or someone in a position to influence her, and they'l get through. Trust me here.

"A friend is someone who bails you out of jail; a best friend is someone who stands in the cell next to you and says 'that was freakin' awesome'"
-Dr. Jamie Morris