fine line between being myself and being polite
I consider myself out, but I have this new dorm situation with only one roommate in a suite that's made for 5-6.
It's really really empty at college over the summer and the room can feel extremely isolated at times.
I have not come out to my new roomie because I do not want to make her feel uncomfortable. I am pretty much a stranger, and it's weird enough living in such an empty dorm.
I don't think she knows a lot of gay people, but I am basing this on the extremely stereotypic fact that I know she had never met any vegetarians until she went to college.
---that may be a bit weird, but if you think about it, it makes sense---
BUT, since I have avoided coming out to her, I feel a little bit like a hypocrite.
Not much, but a little.
I don't think I am going to come out to her, at least for a while.
Wait until I get to know her better.
the only thing that bothers me is that the longer I wait, the more it feels like I am pretending to be something I am not. I omit certain details in conversation that alter what I am about in order not to shock her.
It's a fine line between being me and being polite.
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Um..well I'm not in college,
Um..well I'm not in college, but when I do get there I plan on being open about my sexuality. I don't want to do the whole sit down and talk thing. I just plan on being myself. Being open about it. If you think a chick is hot, say it! Maybe she likes the new Pirates movie? Ask her about it. And maybe she'll say something about Orlando Bloom and you could be like, "Oh, but that Kierra Knightly! She's so beautiful that if she was lesbian I'd do her!" Okay, maybe not that blunt, but you get the picture. Um...maybe rent a lesbian oriented movie. I dunno, just drop hints.
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Hmm...
So, to not make her uncomfortable, YOU get to be uncomfortable?
Umm, who cares if she's comfortable or how well you know her? If the dorms are that empty and she freaks out, she can move.
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good point...
I hadn't considered that!
I think it will go okay. She is a really nice person.
I decided to take a peek in the closet.
What a surprise to find myself hiding inside!
You're not being
You're not being polite.
Being polite is being considerate of another person's feelings, but you don't know what her feelings actually are yet; you're just presupposing them.
next step
Well, I printed out this poster I found online that has a big happy face and it says
"SMILE If You Are Gay"
and I am thinking of putting it up on my door.
Lately I have been meaning to tell her, but ever time she is around I get all shy and end up doing everything in my power to immediately hide anything that looks gay.
This, I know, is a foolish course of action and going to get me no where in the great scheme of things.
smile for the baby dyke!
:)
I decided to take a peek in the closet.
What a surprise to find myself hiding inside!