Pride and a big mouth
I am staying with my parents for two weeks before my summer school starts, and although my mom is accepting, she is terrified of me telling my dad. I am not. I don't feel that immediate urge to tell him, but I really am not afraid of it. She got really upset when I was talking about this Lesbian movie (Bound -I recommend it) in the house because I was "too loud" and that dad might hear.
So even though she is accepting, I really feel like I am having to lie to keep her happy. I dunno. I feel like she feels like my situation is threatening to her.
She has also put her foot down against me going to the Pride parade, even though he will be out of town when it happens.
She is worried that skinheads will be there and that I will get knifed.
I don't think I am going to get to go, even though I really want to.
Has anyone else ever heard of violence at these events because I don't think it's anywhere near as bad a problem as she thinks it is.
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talk to your mom
She might be worried that your dad will blame her for your sexuality and that he would take it out on her or she might be concerned for your saftey if you came out to her. It sounds like she's already concerned about your saftey when it comes to being out proud and all. Parents can be over protective like that sometimes.
"gay: cheerful and lighthearted; merry." - The American Heritage Dictionary.
Well..
Part of growing up is making your own decisions. She can't prevent you from telling him, or going to pride, if those are things you want to do.
A lot of people feel very upset when you come out to them, and they find out everyone else has known for months, as though you didn't trust them or think they could handle it.
There is a potential for more gay bashing around pride, but the way i see it is, in SF, we usually get about let's say half a million people here for pride, and there will be a handful of bashings, usually people walking around alone in the middle of the night. So, if you look at the normal amount of bashing, the huge influx of people, I think it actually goes down (although more likely to get reported since it happens on Pride weekend). My guess is if you go to pride and your mom buys a lottery ticket, you have the same odds of getting attacked as she does of winning.
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