it doesnt matter what age you are, being gay, or questioning isnt a stupid-teenage-phase, it is what it is. your trying to figure some stuff out, thats perfectly cool. :) idk much about trans, or anything like that, but who knows, maybe your bi, or asexual, i dont really know you, and im not you, so i cant give a total answer, those are just some suggestions, maybe they'll help.
welcome to the site! send me a private message if you ever wanna talk :-)

Never be afraid to stand up for whats right. If you lose your values, you've lost yourself, so dont let someone change you into someone you arnt. Don't be afraid of the punishment, Rejoyce in the freedom that let to it.

Time, accompanied with someones ear to talk into and possibly a mouth that responds is probably the best advice I can give you. Maybe this is an adolescent phase, maybe not. But it's for sure not a stupid teenage phase. I'm nearly 18 and I've been dealing with my sexuality for 2 1/2 - 3 yrs. I don't know anything's for sure, it doesn't feel like a phase to me either, and yes! It scares the crap outa me at times as well. But never do I see it as some stupid teenage phase, as what we're going through is very real, and normal for many teens. So you're not alone on this one ;) Welcome to oasismag by they way

"What they don't know can't hurt them

but it sure as hell can hurt me"

I don't really identify with a gender. Sometimes I feel awkward talking about it. I've only told one person and I don't think she understood what I was talking about. I've only stoped identifying with girls for the past 2ish years. (I have a girl's body) It started out as "I'm different from most girls" and then several months ago I started refering to myself as a boy inside my head on rare occasions. Today when my parents were talking about what to do to make my brother study for his learners' permit test my dad was saying that he knew what should be done because he had been a teenage boy and my mom and I hadn't. Then I said that I was a teenage boy. I hadn't meant it as a joke but my parents thought I had so I just played into that and it all worked out fine.

Anyways, I wasn't always like this. When I was really young, 5ish or so, I was really girly. I liked dresses and ribbons in my hair and I decided to "pink my room" (that was how I said that I wanted to make everything from the paint on the walls to the color of the furniture in my room pink)

Just because this is recent doesn't mean that it won't last. Even if it is just a phase of some sort, why does that matter, it's how you're feeling now that matters right now. I've just kind of learned to say that the idea of gender is something that works for other people and just not for me.

You're not the only one going through this. I used to think I was the only one who didn't associate with a gender but now I guess I'm not. It's fun to meet someone else like this. It used to freak me out but now I'm used to it. Just give up on the idea of identifying with a gender or transexuals or any other group like that and try to just be you. The idea of gender doesn't really make too much sense anyways so just ditch the whole concept if that doesn't work for you

P.S. Welcome to Oasis!!!!!!!!! I love your screen name. It's really poetic and awsome.

I know how you feel about not feeling legit just because you haven't known since your early childhood. I'm not genderqueer, though sometimes I do have dreams where I am a boy, or I sometimes find myself wishing I can be a boy. But, I believe we all have the feeling sometimes. I think the pressure of defining your gender is that gender determines so many things in your life. Society expects certain things from boys, certain things from girls. Just give it time. Don't jump into anything yet, though I do understand the pressure to understand yourself. It is frustrating to not completely know who/what you are. Talking things out with another person helps a ton, but that's what Oasis is for :D If you need to chat, even if it's a rant about how your day wasn't going well because your socks didn't match your underwear (my friend seriously goes crazy over that), then feel free to message me.

~May the spirits guide your every move...to assure you please her in all the right places XD

The house on mango street by Sandra Cisneros is a really good book about gender roles. It has absolutly nothing to do with homosexuality but it makes a bunch of good pionts about gender roles, especialy the role of women. It's also the best book ever so everyone should read it.