I have been forgiving of people, they do not know a lot about other gay people, but I have just about had it.
I came back to my room and one of my roommate's boyfriends was there, and I am pretty sure he was drunk or something. We were casually talking and then he was talking about something else while I was lazily bustling around and he was mumbling something about a pack of cards or something and he said "it's so gay. it's super gay".
He has said stupid stuff before, but it was in the spirit of someone trying to understand someone different. This was a stuipid slur. Possibly unintentional, he wasn't all there at the time, but it was only me and his girlfriend in the room. It's not like he thought I didn't hear him.
I just hate people using the phrase "that's so gay" in such a way, as if gay was synonymous with stupid.
It's not like people are calling me names, it just feels, especially around the guys, like a lot of them don't care. At least some of them are okay. Some of them have come to my defense.
I shouldn't waste my energy on people like this.
but then again, maybe he will grow up smarter someday