If Steff doesn't want a monogamous relationship, that doesn't make her a "player." If she's up front about what the expectations should be going in, then that's fine. Sounds like expecting something other than what you know to be true in advance might be the problem here.

I also don't think her not being into monogamy means she isn't capable to be in love. Seems like a lot of projecting here based on your wants/desires. Does it mean she *only* loves your friend? Maybe not. But there is no evidence here to doubt it, unless I believed people are only capable of loving one person at a time.

Personally, I want monogamy, too. I just don't go around doubting the intentions and such of people for whom that holds little interest. I also don't date them.

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she'll come running back, u'll see!
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