That goes back to what I've always said when people ask about this topic. You don't need to make sexuality the basis of meeting new people. If someone interests me, I say hi, and then whatever prompted me to begin talking to them, whether it's the book they're reading, the shirt they're wearing, whatever.

Technically, I'm on the extreme other side of this issue, since I live in the gay neighborhood in San Francisco. So, since finding gay people is so boring, since they're everywhere, you really are forced to find friendships and commonalities, because that's ultimately what matters anyway.

So, if a girl's cute, say hi. Bracelet or not. The rules are the same either way, see if there's a connection, exchange info to get in contact again, etc.

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not at all.

I would say hi, say I'm not from around there, or whatever hit me in the moment. I've long gotten past the idea that finding someone single and gay means much of anything. It's a very small hurdle to finding anything meaningful and interesting between the two of you, which is the much bigger issue.

So, meet people, see if there's chemistry, see if they find their way into your life. The gay stuff comes up fast anyway, so not a concern. If I were interested, I'd avoid doing friend-y things with them, group activities and such, wanting it to be 1:1 face time things, etc. If they end up being not gay, I made a straight friend. Where's the downside?

There's lots of ways to be out, but there seems to be an interesting intersection between being unable to find others and finding your sexuality not worth mentioning. Heterosexuality is assumed, so they don't have to mention it.

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