
In AP Lit, we're reading Kate Chopin's novel The Awakening. It's a feminist book about a mother/wife that desires more independence, and on the journey of her awakening she begins to abandon her responsibilities as a mother/wife. At first, I was very excited because I was hoping it'd turn out her being lesbian or in love with her dear female friend (because they are quite friendly with eachother), but sadly she falls for another man. Well, I began telling my parents of the book. About how I can relate to Edna about the whole independence thing without kids and a husband...
Today, I woke up late, so while I was slowly getting ready my dad came up to me and said, "So you will get married, right? He better be nice." I just looked at my dad and he continued. "And you have to give me at least one grandchild."
Oh my gosh, I don't know if it's the book or my slipping of the "sarcastic" remark of me going gaga over the girls in the community bathroom in college or what, but he was being serious! Like, this was his heart to heart talk. I don't know why he'd say that though because a year ago I mentioned that I don't want to have children and if I do I'll adopt. But, seriously, I can't believe him. Why is it that my dad (and sometimes mom) won't leave me alone about having kids? Sure, I'm female, but whoop-dee-doo! Why aren't they always bugging my brothers about having kids?! And my older brother already has a two-month-old! What's the deal!!!
Well, sorry about that little explosion, but it just upsets me that I'm expected and demanded to have children simply because I'm a girl!
Hm, I sense a bit of feminism in me? Maybe it's just the book I'm reading XD
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feminism is good, the world
feminism is good, the world would be a worse place without it (tho i may be a tad biased), so keep it up.
hugs, luck, and peace
and none has conquered but love
a girl's glance working the will of heaven
pleasure to her alone who mocks us
merciless aphrodite
- anitgone, ode III
Feminism and having children
Feminism and having children are not mutally exclusive. Having children is one of the best things anyone can do, male or female. And, if you adopt, the child will still be your fathers grandchildren.
Don't give up on kids yet.
~haNa
i agree it's annoying when
i agree it's annoying when people expect girls to have kids. having kids is great, but it should be every individuals choice as to what they want to do. grr. i once saw a button that said "mom, if you want grandkids, you'd better adopt your own" good luck with that, hopefully your father will come to his senses.
"freedom's just another word for nothing left to lose"
ugh... i feel the same way..
my mom (even though she knows i am gay) says the same kind of shit all the time.... so frustrating!
btw, i love that book... i read it in my ap lit class back in october.... i kept my fingers crossed that she would end up with her friend too but.... nope... what a bummer... ha ha!