One thing I really noticed is... when I started the website, questioning barely existed as a label and now we have people who say 'I think I'm questioning.' So, we've added a layer of questioning if you're questioning. But, throughout the book, you seemed to just be like "I'm finding out who I am." You're with Allen in the service, but then over the summer, you're dating a girl in L.A...

I've always just been a really free spirit. If I have a thought in my head, you know I just go with it. I go with it and go: this must be right. If it feels good and it feels right, it must be okay no matter what the rules are outside of it. I've always just lived by that, so yeah, you know, I dated this person in the book and then went back and dated a girl, because I did what felt right at the time for my own soul to grow.

Yeah, it just seems so many people get caught up in the 'I'm gay, but I'm like 10 percent turned on by that girl, but I still like him.' So, it was just refreshing to just read 'this is my path and I'm finding out who I am.' How can we get people to not rush to define themselves so quickly and rigidly? Is that just your personality or can we aspire to get more people thinking like that?

I think the way to be inspired to come out, when you really feel that there's a question, it takes a really good set of friends and family around you to go 'Hey, if you are, it's OK,' because then you will come out. But it's a luxury a lot of people just don't have. So, I don't blame a lot of people for questioning and feeling anxious about coming out. I think that you do have to have friends and family that will give you unconditional love no matter what you do. I've actually talked to people and counseled people on how to get their families in that position before they actually come out, to kind of connect with their family and make sure that person will love you unconditionally. I've also counseled people on ways to come out of the closet to their family, and there's a certain way to say it, and a certain way to do it that ensures they're not going to turn their back on you at that moment or even a year down the line. And that way is to, as soon as you come out to someone, say, 'I need your support and love more than anything right now.' Appeal to that person who loves you as someone who needs help, not to change, but needs help and love.

So, it's a framing issue...

It is. Yeah, it can be.