Tolo...

Hyacinthus's picture

Well tolo is coming up soon at my school and i'm a little depressed about it. I mean all of my friends seem to be going with the people they like....that is except for me. Now my friends want me to go with them, but my arument is that I don't want to go there without a date. I mean, this is the first dance since i've come out to my friends, and made public that i'm gay, and I don't want to be the third wheel to all of my friends. But the thing is, is that the guy I like is straight so there's no way I can ask him. He did break up with his girlfriend though, so that is a plus but I don't know if i'm ready to take the risk of asking him. Well maybe someone else will ask me who is gay, that would make my day! But alas despite the fact more people are finding out I haven't met anyone else who is. But that's life i guess.

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La amor de Lysistrata's picture

Go and enjoy

Go with your friends. The greatest dances are the ones you spend with your friends. You won't be a third wheel you be a member of a party. If you want to bring a friend along as your date.that great considering the existense of the phrase "the more, the merrier." It doesn't have to have romantic potential it's the potential of a fun night that is awaiting you. Keep yourself involved in the lives of your friends so that you don't feel "singled out." Your friends want you to come meaning they have no intentions of leaving yourself as the third wheel, you can tease them if their hormones are making them do goofy things. Another bonus is it would be like watching a soap opera and if something goes wrong or one of them is in an awkard situation someone can watch and break the ice or get them away to a place. There is a high likelehood that one of your friends heart could get broken or another "intresting situation" could happen considering probability. You wouldn't want to leave them alone to deal with that. Although your "one true love has not come along, don't close yourself off to great opporitunities. So enjoy it and don't worry so much! Who knows if it gets out far enough your "dream guy" could have chickened out on asking you to the dance but showed up at the dance with a group of friends. Don't get your hopes to up but it's a reminder that the more available you make yourself to great opporitunities the more they will come. Staying at home alone while your friends are out having a great time would be miserable. You would also make them feel bad for leaving you at and wondering what you are doing rather than feeling free to have fun. Instead, imagine yourself having a wonderful time laughing and enjoying the companies of your friends, your date (if u or someone else asks), and getting to know the people that your friends choose/decided to be their dates.

Duncan's picture

I think that from my experien

I think that from my experience, guys don't just pop out of nowhere. You gotta be the aggressor. If you can't find anyone, just go with your friends. I know what you mean; danciing alone or with my friends is the story of my juniour high life. I've been lucky though. Our town has gay dances, but you kinda hafta know certain people to know about it. Oh well. Try to be proactive when looking for a date, but I wouldn't get my hopes up if there aren't any boys who are out at your school.