Okay, a few people on oasis have been dating. I thought this issue needed to be brought up. I was going out with someone on here. I understand that you want to go out with someone and feel loved by someone. Online relationships are not the right thing. They have made me hurt and I am just look out for all of you.

The first harm area of online dating is an unconfirmed identity. First of all you could be dating a total freak or pervert. It is not sensible to start a relationship without knowing this person in real life. At least talk on the phone a bit send plenty of pictures etc. TRUTH: People online are not like themselves in real life. That love letter that you see on the screen can not be expressed to your face. They could be lieing right in front of your face, although you have no idea because you can't see them or hear them. Someone online that you might think is a badass, arrogant, rebel could be the exact opposite person you are looking for.

The second harm area of online dating is not being able to have physical contact. When you love someone, you want to be with them. You want to cuddle with them or make love. Online dating limits that. When you listen to them it makes you want them more. It caused a lot of trauma for me, and eventually if you are in one, it will cause a lot for you.

The third harm area of online dating is putting a stop to outside social life. Your social life outside gets ruined when you are online talking to someone you haven't met. I used to wake up early, get to bed late, cancel social trips, etc. and that got me glued to the computer even more. The Internet and computer causes people to become anti-social and more aware. Frankly I believe that ignorance is bliss, and the people that are totally oblivious are the happiest. It is suprising, but hapiness is hard to find when you aren't looking. You could find a soulmate outside of the internet. Just go look. Make friends. Give it time. Thee is no easy way to find LGBT people (unless you live in provincetown mass.) It is hard for all of us not just you.

The final harm area is no trust. The Internet does not let you build trust with your partner. Your partner could be cheating on you with billy under the bleachers and using you for fun!!!

The computer and internet dating put a lot of stress on your daily life. Do not let it ruin yours.

(If I missed anything that anyone would like to add please do! anything constructive is needed)

~Jerry