I love beautiful thing too!

"What is the purpose of life? It is to create our own purpose."

The notion of there being a "scene" that you either into or not into is bullshit. It is what you make it.

I go out on occassion, and when I do I meet people I didn't know before then, plain and simple. We dance, drink, make out, whatever. Sometimes it is all innocent, no numbers change hands, and it's just a fun night. No need to analyze it, really. I don't wonder why I need to go to a gay bar to meet gay people, etc., etc., I just go, aim for the hot gu on the dance floor, and dance. I've done the analyzing thing before, it gets you single, unlaid, and more questions than answers. Stop as soon as you can. The world will never make sense. You either have to jump on the system that's here, or learn to like questioning life without having one.

I can't say clubbing is my favorite thing to do, though (but it's so rae you get to paw boys randomly in the street. Well, OK, it can happen here). I'd much rather a smaller group, a specific activity, more intimacy, etc. But when I am in a group of friends doing something I might enjoy more, I don't meet anyone new, I just have fun. It's nice, but a different experience entirely.

But, I think it is important to find a balance. If you aren't meeting new people on a semi-regular basis, figure out how. Reading people's profiles on Friendster or whatever doesn't count. Go to a club, a gay student meeting, a coffeeshop, anywhere. And if you don't dance, learn. If you refuse to learn, drink enough so you don't care anymore, and then dance.

Your soulmate isn't going to find you sitting in your room in front of the computer. He's out walking the streets wondering where you are. Get out there so you can run into him.