how do i tell my best friend i'm a lesbian?

6 July, 2005 - 5:09pm — beckyd

I want to tell my best friend i'm a lesbian but i don't really know how to tell her. The topic of gay people in general never really comes up in our conversations and i don't just want to tell her i'm a lesbian in the middle of a random conversation. anyone have any suggestions on how i could bring the topic up and tell her i'm a lesbian?

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6 July, 2005 - 5:21pm — pantherbball

i just told one of my friends

i just told one of my friends a couple of days ago because i was having a lot of trouble with one gurl, and it was really bothering me so i just told her i was having a bad day, and then one thing lead to another, and she was totally cool with it.

6 July, 2005 - 9:05pm — toriisinsane

You could send her an email o

You could send her an email or something. That's what I did. I find it easier to say what I mean when I have time to think about it, and don't just blurt out random stuff. It seems less scarey for me as well. I'm not one for talking, especially not about personal things.

Sometimes I lie awake at night staring at the stars and wondering where the hell is my ceiling?

7 July, 2005 - 1:22am — Bluesong

Same here

I told my friend online that I bisexual and it turned out that she was too! Just make sure that you prepare her first. Maybe bring out the topic by showing her an article and see how she responds to it, before you come out.

"I choose to be myself no matter what the world says I should be."

15 July, 2005 - 3:35pm — beckyd

thanks

thanks for all your suggestions. But i was considering telling my mom before telling my friend, do you think it would be a good idea?

15 July, 2005 - 5:23pm — Nerienea

It might be...

It might be a good idea to tell your mom first, but it doesn't matter so much the order... for me, I told one of my friends, then one crush (who was, as I thought, straight), then my parents, then a later crush, and then pretty much everyone probably figured it out by how couple-ish me and the second crush acted in public.

I told the first friend (who, it turns out, is questioning and was for awhile attracted to crush #2 but said I should tell her and she'd hold back, and later stopped crushing on her) by saying "I have the crush who I haven't had the nerve to tell yet" to explain why I was out of sorts, and she asked if it was a girl, and knew who it was... my second crush (the methods for parents and first crush being... ham-handed) I told via email, explaining the story of the first crush.

16 July, 2005 - 4:10am — screv

do the coward thing, both get

do the coward thing, both get drunk, and just blurt it out. then reflect on it in the morning

she holds the pen that spells the end

16 July, 2005 - 5:52am — different kind ...

You just have to tell her

You might think that you're friend will react a certain way but if she's you're friend shes going to accept you no matter what. She might already have an idea that you are and are just waiting for you to bring it up. I say just sit her down and either tell her you're a lesbian or tell her you like someone and it is a girl. well i hope this helps. okk ttyl

You scare the shit out of people so they dont see how scared you are.
-Gia Carangi

18 July, 2005 - 9:27pm — beckyd

still don't know what to say

i know if my friend really is my friend she'll be ok with it but it still doesn't make it less nerve wrecking, and i still can't figure out how to tell her. something tells me though that i should just blurt it out next time i see her...it would make things a hell of alot easier.

18 July, 2005 - 9:39pm — different kind ...

yeah

lol i think that just blurting it out before you cam stop yourself or talk yourself out of it is a good idea. When i told my best friend, we were talking about our crushes and she kept asking me who it was and i finnally just told her and it was no big deal, she encouraged me to talk about her and to actually talk to her. lol well ttyl

You scare the shit out of people so they dont see how scared you are.
-Gia Carangi

24 July, 2005 - 3:09am — beckyd

thanks everyone

i've just decided i have to sit and tell her the truth and that no matter what happens it's better that she knows instead of me having to lie all the time.

24 July, 2005 - 5:54am — xx_dice

IMPORTANT!!!

Be careful who you tell about your sexual orientation. Sometimes they'll turn around and stab you in the back with it.

America...home of the free.

24 July, 2005 - 9:00am — jeff

Hmm...

Can't you just pretend and tell them you're interested in a guy, but afraid because you think you're a bad kisser, go back and forth on that for a while, until you think you can ask if she would mind letting you practice kissing her.

Afterwards, tell her you liked it.

There you go, lesbian conversation!

28 July, 2005 - 8:21am — Cheyennelovesu15

.........

Ask your friend if she thinks any0ne thats lives around you is gay. Make it seem casual though. Ask her something like "what would you do if someone came up to you and said they were gay?" Just somehow bring the subject up. She will probably be like why are you gay? If she says it in a negative way you might want to wait to tell her and find out how she feels about it a little more, or try and change the ways she thinks about gay people. If she sounds like its not a big deal then come out and say yes I am a lesbian, but let her know that you are not going to hit on her or make her feel uncomfortable that you are the same person you have always been, and to please not judge you because of your sexuality.

-Cheyenne