Confused about Sexual Orientation
Hello everyone. I'm kind of new to oasis, so I don't really know if this is really the right place to put this, but I'm hoping that someone can help me. =)
Lately I've been really confused about whether I'm straight or gay. At first I decided that I was gay, but then lately I'm not so sure... -.-" even though I think I'm probably gay. I have crushes on guys and I think that guys are more attractive than girls (definitely, as I don't find myself staring and any of girl's parts, but I find myself staring at guy's faces and arms and legs often =D). But I dunno if my crushes are really crushes.. if you know what I mean!! I usually don't really know the people I'm having a crush on, but I keep trying to see them (like I try to look in a restaurant and see if I can find them =D). And I think about them a lot. I don't know if other crushes are supposed to be like this though XD.
But then what makes me confused is that I don't know if I can have sex with a guy XD. Like if I think of having (anal) sex with a guy, I sort of feel that I wouldn't really want to do it (it seems a little gross to me...) . Maybe this has something to do with the fact that I'm still only 15 years old, but it's really confusing me. On a side note, I don't think I can really have sex with a girl either because every time I think of a girl's private parts, I sort of start wanting to vomit... Besides, I don't know if I can really have a relationship with a guy.
I know I am probably gay =). But if some people can really confirm this, it can stop my confusion and make me happier!! =) thanks!
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Well you're definitely gay to some extent, after all you're attracted to guys. You haven't mentioned anything that would lead me to think that you have a heterosexual side. I think it's quite normal to have difficulty envisioning having sex with a guy if you're only just discovering your attraction to guys. I did have this difficulty. Also, not all guys have anal sex. In fact, I read that a survey suggests that it doesn't appeal to as many as 50% of gay guys.
Hwoever, if you never do end up liking sex with guys, maybe you'd best be described as asexual to some extent.
Dave
Hey
Hey,
To me it sounds like you're gay. You are old enough to know, I reliased at 14. If you fanatsise about men, and find yourself looking at them then you are at least partly gay. If you really do find breasts and vaginas disgusting then you are almost certainly gay - this was made me reliase I was gay - an actual revolution at women's sex organs. Not every gay man finds anal sex attractive, the same way not all straight women enjoy giving blowjobs. Everyone has their own sexual quirks and tastes.
"Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suf-fer-ing"
You sound like you could be b
You sound like you could be bi to me - you don't seem keen on sex yet, with whomever, but you do seem to be attracted to guys and girls. Make sense? :P
Thanks for your posts everyon
Thanks for your posts everyone =). The fact that 50% of gay guys do not find anal sex appealing made me feel a lot better.
To the above poster, I don't think I am bi because I don't find breasts and vaginas attractive. (especially the vagina's, which sort of make me want to vomit when I think about them...)