Does anyone else have this problem? I'm pansexual, which means I'm attracted to every form of gender, or lack there of, but to make it easier when I'm coming out sometimes I just cut corners and say I'm gay to save time. Then people always assume I only like girls. This is useful sometimes, seeing as it is a good way to get guys off my back that I'm not interested in (I’m really picky) but I'm getting sick of coming out twice. It's also kind of sad, because a lot of the time I feel more comfortable coming out to straight people as gay, than queers as not just liking girls. The assumptions made on both sides really make me feel as though I have no true community sometimes. I mean, just because I like guys doesn’t make me ‘confused.’ I’m not seeking attention, I’m not going to ‘change my mind.’ I’m pansexual. I’ve been out for three years. I might decide to change my word, or my gender, because I believe gender is fluid and always in motion, but I will never stop being queer. I’m sick of people who should be understanding thinking I’m somehow ‘less gay’ because I like boys. Hello! Since when was it a competition? I was under the impression my sexuality was just that, my own. As in, why won’t people trust me that it is what I say it is, and that that is no worse than their own?

Yeah, that started off almost intelligent sounding and disintegrated near the end, so basically, the word gay describes a person’s relationships with their own gender, it says nothing about it to others, and liking other genders doesn’t make you ‘confused,’ attention seeking or any less queer.