Well, judging from my ever-so-slick performance this weekend, my standard mode of operations seems to go suchlike: Figure out exactly how you're going to say it. Obsess over every word, every nuance, every pause, for weeks on end until you drive yourself to the brink of a nervous breakdown. Wait for exactly the right moment, alone, quiet, semi-romantic, but not overtly or threateningly romantic. Then, finally, totally clam up, trip over your words, and basically blow it all to hell and gone. I know, please, hold your applause.

TeeAhr1. Raving batshit loony? Or HOPE FOR MAN??

not like insane, physical stalking, like standing outside stalkee's house in the dark looking into his/her bedroom or anything... more like filming from afar with my video camera, making decisions based on stalkee and maximising the contact i can get with him/her, positioning myself at vantage points where i can see them the most... this is only when im obsessive though, which is only at first and it tends to die down quickly (rather than building up, which is what happens with crazy stalkers...)

I chose " get a friend to find out for me" simply because my friend Caroline and I have this system where I go up to girls and ask if they're single and gay. Then after tell them that my friend Caroline wants to meet her. The same for me, when I see a guy I like. It's a really good system because you save the time of gaining courage, and avoid totally looking like a fool.

This doesn't me that I haven't acted on my own before. I have plenty of times. It gets easier. My advice is to be as simple as possible when talking to the person, especially if you tend to mumble words like me when I' m nervous.

Whatever you do, take the chance. You won't get anything in life if you don't act.

Mark from the big T.O.