For those of you who are unaware. I have been involved with a completely awesome guy for almost 3 months now.
We have gotten quite serious aswell. I think for the first time in my life , I can truly say I am in love. =)
What follows, is the tale of how we met .. and fell for each other....
The story starts about 18 months ago , just as me and my best friend shania were moving into a new place (where we have been staying since then). This is also about the time I became involved in Oasis. During that time, I met and became involved with someone I met at the clubs. This person was a drug dealer and also HIV Positive. I realized that this relationship could only end up in pain and heartache , so i called it off an started anew.
On one of the mailing lists I am on (netraver) , a new member joined. I immediately recognized his name as being the ex-boyfriend of the guy I had been dating a few months before. So I emailed Scheepers (skip) and asked him wether he was indeed this guy. It was indeed so. We then proceeded to communicate with each other via the mailing list for many many months. Skip turned out to be a graphic designer/web developer.. much like myself. He also had a rather twisted sense of humor, which meant that we would bounce quips off each other the whole time , and we always seemed to know where the 'line' was , because we would always try to be the first to cross it.
As time wore on, i started realizing that I really liked him a lot , even though we had never met. I was always on the lookout for him at parties, and even though we had known each other for almost a year.. we had still never met. Sometime late last year, we started brainstorming a new version of the netraver website (which is still not finished, we have worked on other projects though). Ever since then , our mails on the list became a lot more flirtatious .. and then .. one day in late june , we decided we had to meet. We got on like a house on fire .. but I have to admit, my hopes were dashed at this point. Even though I found him incredibly emotionally and intellectually attractive .. he just wasn't my type. He was a lot 'smaller' than i had imagined/hoped, and to be honest.. just not my type (butch , masculine.. and usually straight. *sigh*). But we still stayed friends, although we were both kinda sorta involved with other people at this point.
A few months later .. we were both going on the D-Rail train rave, which is where we finally hooked up. However, before the rave.. I just was not sure if he was what i wanted / needed in a relationship. He was incredibly keen , constantly trying to invite me out for coffee and the like, and i was constantly declining etc. But in all honesty, I was declining every offer to do anything with anyone. I spent most of my time reading / coding that month. I just needed some time alone.
to be continued...